Cam girls offer clients everywhere their own personal adult shows. As intimate as you can get online, but what happens if one – or both of you, develops feelings? Do cam girls fall in love with their clients? The men watching them certainly do. Drop in to any adult chat room or skim through some of the racier reddit subs and you’ll see a common theme: men confessing their love for cam performers.

But what is it that makes men fall for these seemingly unattainable women? Is it the occasionally whispered urban myth that cam girls do fall for their favourite clients? Or is it their willingness to do almost anything on camera? Or are most of these men simply getting played by skilled businesswomen who know all the tricks to getting their clients to splash the cash on tips? We’ve got the low down from guys who’ve fallen in love with their favourite cam performers and the girls who go on cam for a living reveal all. From cam girl crushes to the real deal, read our list to find out why so many guys fall in love with cam performers.

15. Cam Girls Will Do (Almost) ANYTHING You Want

Those wildest whims we just mentioned? Those deep dark fantasies you all have but are afraid to ask your wife or girlfriend for? When you find a cam girl that will indulge those desires, you’re bound to think she’s the one. And men are willing to pay for it. One guy who’s a regular cam user confessed all on Reddit, saying: “I like to watch girls [pleasure themselves] while moaning my name, do exactly what I tell them to do, hop on a skype call to dirty talk for a little while and help me c*m, send me nudes on snapchat, etc. All together I probably spend $40 a month on it.”

14. This Cam Girl Is Different From The Rest

Thousands of girls perform online across hundreds of cam girl websites, but guys that fall for their cam girls often have one thing in common. They all think that THIS cam girl is somehow different from all the others. One guy lays it all out in his cam girl love confession, saying: “I’ve been addicted to webcam s*x for nearly three years. I couldn’t get enough. I wanted to stop but I let the urge get to me. I spent so much money on girls that I had no connection or feeling towards. That was until I met ‘her’. She was in the new model section and I could already tell she was different from the other girls. I clicked on her. She was very shy at first and I as well. I got to know her a little. next thing you know we chatted for at least a good 30 minutes without even going to private (or her urging me to go). Each day after that we started talking more more. I of course told her about my s*xual fantasy and she too would return the favour.”

13. Guys Love Getting Attention From Cam Girls

Cam girls know how to work a room. You know that moment when you walk into a room IRL and your girl flashes you a beaming smile and you feel like the only person she cares about. That’s what they recreate in their online worlds. One guy confesses this was what made him fall in love with his cam girl, saying: “I work a very stressful job and when I get home and get online and know that I get to talk to her, I just get a big smile on my face. And when I join her room, she instantly smiles and says something like “baby” or “I missed you” and she just makes me feel so wanted.”

12. Infatuated Or In Love With Your Cam Girl?

If you feel like you might have feelings for your hot cam girl, one guy has a true story to share that might help you out. A tale as old as time, this guy got bored and needed some lovin’ so he went on to a cam site. Except, this time things were different. We’ll let him tell the rest: “I started talking to one of the girls. I was talking dirty to her or something and she asked me to call her. It turns out she is in Florida and I was going down to Florida and she wants to meet up and spend the weekend with me. This whole time she is sending me insanely s*xy pictures of whatever I want and I am just getting kicks from talking to her. She was pretty cool but I knew that something was off about her. In reality I was just h*rny and I knew that I should stop. I finally did when I had the classic post-fap epiphany of what the f**k are you doing? I quickly told her that this could not work and never spoke to her again.”

11. Cam Girls Are Scamming Their Clients

So, this isn’t the case with every single cam girl and guy relationship, but it does seem to happen alarmingly often. For every online post that begins: “I think I’m in love with a cam girl” there are at least half a dozen replies telling the guy to run. Why? Because he’s being played or worse, scammed for money. What are the tell-tale signs? Your cam girl will ONLY talk to you in her room – often coercing you into private (paid) chat. She’ll ask directly for cash, or even spin a tale about being mistreated. If you do send cash, it’s unlikely you’ll see your cam girl or your money ever again.

10. When Your Cam Girl Stops Taking Your Money

Let’s go out on a limb here and assume that 99.9% of cam girls are getting naked online for money. Without cold hard cash being exchanged it becomes a whole different ball game. If you’ve built a relationship with a cam girl and she’s spending a ton of time talking to you, without getting any tips, she may just have feelings for you. Check out a confession from a working cam girl who’s gotten close to a particular client, she says: “Something which I did right away (after realizing my feelings) was to stop taking that particular person’s money, and only have unpaid contact with him. I have even added up the amount of money he spent on me in the past, and repaid it by sending him gifts etc. Because I have feelings for him, and I feel guilty that money was ever involved.”

9. Your Cam Girl Is Lying About Being Single

Ok so this may not be the reason why you fall in love with a cam girl, but if you think she’s got a boyfriend or partner, chances are you’ll be looking around for another cam girl to watch. As a working cam girl confesses, there’s a very good reason why almost all cam girls will tell you they’re single. She says: “Of course I’m lying about being single. Part of the fantasy for these guys is that I’m an attainable girl, one you could see in real life and take home and f**k. I’m not interested in meeting any of my clients. Not even a little bit. If I were, I’d be an escort!”

8. It’s A Cam Girl’s Job To Make A Guy Feel Special

While some guys might feel bitter about being scammed, there’s a fine line to be drawn. It’s a cam girl’s job to make ALL of her clients feel special in some way. Whether that’s helping them to reach a happy ending or putting on a show just for you – it’s all in a day’s work for a cam girl. Her number one priority is to earn some dollars so she can pay her bills. That might make you feel cheated somehow – especially if you’ve fallen for your cam girl in a big way. But take a moment to remember why you’re both there in the first place. One of you definitely isn’t there to get emotionally invested.

7. When You Fall In Love With A Cam Girl’s Personality – Not Her Body

When guys fall in love with cam girls, so often they’ll say that her personality is what they fell for. There’s just one problem, guys, that’s why many cam girls are so successful. There are plenty of online places where you can see naked women or watch adult content without getting to know the performers. It’s the intimacy of cams that make them so popular. One cam girl gives it to us straight, saying: “That’s why dudes are on a cam site in the first place, so when someone says that… Duh, it’s the point! If you weren’t looking for a little personality with your stimulation, you’d be on a different site entirely!”

6. Because Every Cam Girl Needs A Superhero

Can anyone say saviour complex? Look, cam girls have a tough time online. Sure, they get nice clients who are polite and respectful – but they also get a ton of dudes asking for everything from free shows to illegal acts. Unsolicited body part pics are all in a day’s work for a cam girl. So if you’ve started to develop feelings for a girl you will not want other guys being abusive in her chat room. One guy confesses his knight in shining armour feelings developed after asking his cam girl about her work, saying: “Once I asked her about this “job” and she replied how often she goes home feeling used or “really empty” (she was clearly embarrassed, so I stopped talking about other guys) but I have to admit, I get an awkward feeling when I read what others write to her or how she responds. As if I need to protect her.”

5. Cam Girls Serve Up The Girlfriend Experience

Some cam girls deliver the ‘girlfriend experience’. IRL this means an escort will sleep with you, but also take care of your emotional needs too. Online this usually means cam girls will spend time talking with you and build a ‘real’ and personal connection. Why? One cam girl recruiter gives us the low down on why cam girls prefer this to their usual online work, saying: “We would MUCH rather earn $100 from one sweet guy (with whom we’ve built a long-time camaraderie) than $5 from 20 different strangers.” Plus, they say, “if you hit it off, it’s genuinely EXCITING to cater to his wildest whims.”

4. Your Cam Girl Makes You Feel Like No One Else Does

When couples tell their story of how they got together, you’ll often hear them say that their partner made them feel like no-one else could. You’ll also hear men confess that this is why they love their cam girl. She gives them attention, gets wild on camera and she’s probably always there when they need her. But is it love? Here’s a confession from a guy in love with a cam girl: “I’ve been speaking to this girl for about 8 months now and she just makes me feel a way no one else has ever been able to make me feel.”

“It’s getting to the point now where I’m struggling to carry on justifying the amount of money I’m spending on her. I have brought up possibly seeing her by not using the site and not having to pay but she just says that she would get in trouble if she did that.”

3. Guys Allow The Cam Girls To Trick Them

Guys all know the cam girl’s tricks of the trade and they’ve heard most of the scam stories. Yet many still find themselves falling in love online. Check out what happened to this cam girl loving guy who confessed his love via the experience project: Justin says: “ I’m an older man and she is quite a bit younger. I’ve been honest and blunt. I don’t expect anything. Doesn’t matter. I’ve fallen hard and fast. I’m a fool. Our only contact is through the site. Hell, she won’t tell me her last name, or the city she lives in, or anything that might be personally identifiable. At the edge of every conversation that might lead to external contact is her need to maintain distance from ‘fans’, to set up and enforce boundaries. I understand that. She touches my heart and soul in ways that astound even an older guy like me. And it’s simply because I’ve allowed it. But knowing I’ve been a putz doesn’t change much does it? I am still in love. She clearly is not.”

2. Guys Love Being Their Cam Girl’s Favourite Client

When a girl is being hit on and propositioned by possibly hundreds of guys a day, it’s really going to make you feel special when YOU’RE the one she picks to give her cell number to. Here’s a confession from a guy grappling with his feelings for a cam girl, he says: “When I first saw her, I instantly knew she would be one of my favorites. I’ve been supporting her as I not only enjoy her company but I want her to have fun and be successful on the site. However, lately I’ve been wondering if I want something more. I also feel fortunate that I even have things like her phone number and her Skype as I imagine most of her viewers don’t. The way I’ve rationalized it to myself is that models on cam sites provide a service, similar to bartenders, servers and strippers. At the end of the day, they are all there to work, and it’s their job to get you to like them so that you give them more money. She’s doing her job extraordinarily well. Though honestly I’ve been struggling with it because I’m not sure if I’m in denial.”

1. Your Cam Girl Is Actually In Love With You Too!

We couldn’t end this list without a real-life story of a cam girl love confession. Yep, that’s right guys, when your cam girl favourite isn’t scamming you, playing you for tips or lying to please you – she might actually have feelings for you. Check out this Reddit confession from a cam girl who’s going to marry her favourite client… “Someone new entered my room who actually talked, that wasn’t a creep and was actually fun and easy to hang out with. He made me laugh a lot and his presence made me feel this undeniable surge of lightening in my heart. When I asked about him I almost didn’t believe what he was saying; 6″, Scottish, in the RAF, funny, smart, likes me a lot. But we Skyped and I saw he was more than perfect and we’ve been attached ever since. We have a very open and communicative relationship, he’s become my best friend and next year we’ll be getting married.”