They say “some things are better left unsaid,” but that’s for people who don’t have best friends, and that’s pretty sad. However, if you have a yin to your yang, a Dolce to your Gabbana, a tick to your tock you already know how it goes; this is the person you tell everything to, and I do mean EVERYTHING! Some stories are too embarrassing, too personal, too dramatic to simply reveal to Tom, Dick or Harry— unless of course your best friend’s name is either Tom, Dick or Harry. If that’s the case then go right ahead and tell it all, set your conscience free.

That’s what best friends are for, they provide a comfortable environment. Then, before you know it you’re spilling your innermost secrets— even the ones you promised yourself you would take to the grave. Well consider yourself dead and buried because there are some things you just can’t keep to yourself no matter how hard you try. I can’t really speak for the male variety, but women need to vent, they need to get things off their chest, they need to spill the beans ever so often. And when you have a bestie who you trust like no one else, what’s the harm in telling them your deepest secrets? It’s cathartic after all, you should try it sometime. But, while you figure out all the deep and yes, embarrassing moments you have yet to confess to your best friend, check out these 15 Female Confessions and see if you can identify with any of them.

15. You forgot to take a shower

I’m not saying this has ever happened to you, but if it ever did the only person who you should dare to tell is your best friend. It may be that one lazy Sunday you were super busy cleaning your house from head to toe, you then mustered up some extra energy to cook dinner.

You enjoyed the fruits of your labour, washed the dishes and decided to lay down for a few minutes before heading into the shower. The next thing you know it’s MONDAY morning, you simply fell asleep and never woke back up; it happens, right? Well, if you let this slip to anyone they’ll judge you for sure, but your trusted bestie will not.

14. You own a vibrator

These days the stigma attached to women who use vibrators are certainly different from a few years ago, but there are some things you still want to keep private. It’s nobody’s business after all. Unless of course you just bought the most amazing vibrator you’ve ever experienced in your whole life; if that’s the case, you can’t be selfish and keep this to yourself.

You don’t need to shout the news from the rooftop, unless you want to, and that’s okay too, but you should for sure tell your best friend. After all, she may want to indulge in this ‘out- of –body’ experience too. Don’t be selfish, sharing is caring.

13. You once got in a fight over a guy

Okay, so this is totally embarrassing and clearly you would never ever, let this happen again. But there was that one time, long ago when you actually fought a girl at a party, over a guy! If this ever happened to me I would move away from my hometown, change my name and try to delete this embarrassing moment from my memory. Or I could just tell my bestie and make her swear to never, ever repeat it to anyone.

Chances are she will get a hoot out of this story and will want to know all the gory details, because seriously, who fights over a guy? That’s the lamest thing ever; yes, I’m judging you, but your best friend wouldn’t so go ahead and confess!

12. You have a crush on your boss

We’ve all been there, but how many of us would dare to admit it? You certainly can’t tell your sneaky co-worker who sits beside you in the cubicle and reports your every move. And you definitely can’t tell your boyfriend because, well that would just be weird and he would obviously overreact. As for your boss, well he can never, ever find out about this; it would be completely unprofessional.

It’s just a simple crush after all, nothing crazy, you just appreciate a smart, good looking, successful entrepreneur and you need to talk to someone about it. Well that’s what best friends are for, call up your bestie and give her the lowdown on your hot boss, she’ll understand.

11. You’re afraid of the dark

Personally I don’t think anyone should be ashamed of saying that they’re afraid of the dark; after all darkness is scary —and those horror movies aren’t helping either. When the lights go out you know something bad is about to happen, thanks Stephen King.

But if you don’t want to be judged by the masses feel free to confess to your bestie. She may even provide suggestions for how you can overcome your fear. Maybe you can get a nightlight, but they do cast scary shadows on the wall… eek! Okay I’m clearly not helping, which is probably why only your best friend can help you with this issue, so go on, spill your guts!

10. You spent half your paycheck on a pair of shoes

If you’re a shoe fanatic then chances are your bestie is one too, after all “birds of a feather stick together.” And every now and then you see a pair of shoes that you must buy no matter the cost; it happens, trust me.

If you ever spent half your paycheck buying those enviable shoes that you’ve been getting compliments on all day long, go ahead and confess this splurge to your best friend. Chances are nobody else will understand why buying this shoe was more important to you than paying your water bill or buying food this month, but your bestie will.

9. You secretly think the earth is flat

Remember that time rapper B.O.B said the thought the earth was flat and Twitter totally roasted him with funny memes? Well, what if people knew that you actually agreed with him? They would laugh at you, so I would advise you to not tell anyone on social media, but you can totally tell your bestie. Oh, and not via text or anything traceable, this conversation needs to be done face to face, just to be on the safe side. Of course your best friend will most likely explain to you why this ‘flat earth’ theory is flawed, but the point is that you can give her an opinion on this without the judgement.

8. You’re not over your cheating ex

Remember that loser ex-boyfriend who treated you like crap, and cheated on you multiple times? Well maybe you’re still in love with him. If you tell your parents they would totally disown you, after all he crashed on their couch for 6 months without giving them even a dime to contribute to the bills.

And to make matters worse after all they did for him, he still disrespected their daughter. Nope you definitely can’t tell your mom or dad that you’re still pining over this loser, but your best friend will understand. Of course you already know that she will make you swear to NEVER EVER go back to him, but she’ll be all ears while you confess this embarrassing detail.

7. You had a one- night-stand while on vacation

Your best friend noticed that you were exceptionally happy when you returned from your summer vacation in Italy, but she didn’t really know why. While you totally enjoyed the Italian food, great music and spending quality time with your family, it was something else, or should I say, someone else that put that smile on your face.

It’s undoubtedly not in your nature to do anything this unpredictable, but you were in Italy after all. His name was Massimo, and let’s just say you spent one very memorable night in Massimo’s arms after a concert. The next morning you bid him “Arrivederci” and that was it!

6. You got your boyfriend’s named tattooed on your body

One of the things you should never, ever do is get your boyfriend’s name tattooed on your body, but being the rebel that you are that’s exactly what you did, smh! It was a stupid idea that you wish you could take back, but when you’re in love who can tell you not to go through with these grand gestures? Well your best friend would, if you had told her your insane idea beforehand, but now it’s too late. All that’s left is to hang your head in shame and tell your bestie that you did something dumb, although in this case dumb would be an understatement!

5. You once got drunk and peed on your neighbor’s lawn

At some point during our early twenties we all got a little too drunk and did something totally embarrassing, it happens to the best of us. Thankfully though, oftentimes after a good night’s sleep we wake up with little or no memory of our embarrassing actions, that is unless your embarrassing drunk moment was captured on video.

Go ahead and tell your bestie that you peed on your neighbor’s lawn after coming home drunk one night. You clearly had no memory of the incident, but the neighbor gleefully jogged your memory by calling your parents, then showing them proof of your actions on their security camera. Yikes!

4. You cheated on your boyfriend

At the moment you’re in a great relationship with a great guy who your parents actually like, plus he gets along well with your best friend. Despite his awesomeness you once cheated on him with your loser ex; but you instantly knew it was a bad decision, and you never mentioned it to anyone. The only person who you can confess this to is your best friend. After all, she’s been with you through numerous bad relationships and knows you like no one else does. And while your bestie might not completely understand how you could cheat on such a great guy, she won’t judge you for it, and most importantly she won’t tell your dirty little secret to anyone.

3. You have an extra toe

Let’s be honest, your best friend probably knows that something is up anyway; after all she’s only ever seen you in closed-toe shoes, and you’ve known each other for 10 years. Plus when you sleepover at her house, you always keep your socks on, that’s a telltale sign that you’re hiding something.

Your bestie is probably already conjuring up crazy stories in her head of what might be wrong with your feet; like do you have humongous corns that won’t go away, or horribly mangled feet? Chances are your weird little ‘extra toe’ confession won’t be nearly as bad as what she thought was wrong, so just tell her and get it over with!

2. You got rejected by a crush

So you and your bestie used to be friends with this really cool guy, then one day you didn’t want to hang out with him anymore. When people asked why you were no longer friends you made up some lame excuse, but it’s time to tell your bestie the real reason.

You once had a crush on him, and after you poured out your heart he rejected you; it’s totally embarrassing I know, or I can imagine. It’s time to confess to your best friend why this dude is now your sworn enemy. Chances are she’ll understand and will even share your hatred for him, I mean how dare he not like you back, who does he think he is?

1. You once let your sister pee on your arm

No, you weren’t reliving some weird R-Kelly fetish, eww, this actually was a life or death situation. Or at least if not deadly, it was definitely serious. Back in college during a family trip to the Caribbean you got stung by a jellyfish. And, just like that episode of Friends where Joey peed on Monica after the same thing happened to her, you decided to let your sister pee on your leg.

You both swore never to repeat this incident, but of course you have to tell this story to your best friend, along with the fact that the whole ‘urine cures jellyfish sting’ theory is not really true. The urine actually made it more painful. Ouch!