I remember when we were teenagers, we used to play a game with the petals of a flower. Poor plants! It was so fascinating to tear off each petal and to say “he loves me”, “he loves me not”. Petal after petal, and so on, until the last one which you were hoping would not be “he loves me not”. But if it was, we started it all over, sacrificing another poor plant, with more petals, to make sure the last one is “he loves me”.

Lost in the mysterious world of imagination, we day-dreamed about the Prince Charming in our lives, smiling with satisfaction and sighing gently. I wasn’t able to figure out what that sighing meant. I can tell you now that I am a grown-up: it was a mixture of hope and disappointment at the same time. Now I am asking, where has all this love disappeared?

Of course, everyone has their own opinion about what love is and means, but everyone can also understand when (s)he is not loved anymore. But can we all understand what “I hate this girl” means. Here are 15 things guys think when they realize they actually hate the girl they’re with.

15. I’d never make love to her

Men think of sex 19 times a day, while women only 10 times a day, according to a study made by American researchers. They also argue that men can experience sex less emotionally than women. Their affective involvement is low or may be non-existent in some cases.

But, when a man thinks of not having sex with a girl under any circumstances, there must be something wrong.

In general men think like this because they don’t like your physical appearance. They don’t consider you hot enough for them. And they can’t even imagine that you can be good in bed!

14. She’s (so) annoying

Her: What would you like to do tonight, dear? Would you like to go out and see a movie? Or would you like to call some friends over?

Him: Why are you asking me all this? You know exactly what I would like. To stay home, drink beer and watch a football match.

I’m sure it sounds so familiar!

She used to ask you the same questions over and over again, and you used to accept one of her suggestions, but now, everything sounds stupid and annoying. Suddenly and out of the blue something has changed. Maybe in her. Or maybe in yourself!

13. Keep quiet!

It is something that any man wants, at least from time to time.

Girls, remember having a tough day at work, when you had to speak a lot and to listen to a lot of people telling more or less interesting things? I’m sure it required a lot of effort to listen, especially when you had to think of other tasks too, or to focus on another subject.

Now, fancy you’re a man coming back home after such a hard day at work. Would you have your ears open to everything that your partner would tell you? Please think twice before answering.

It has also been scientifically proven that men have fewer verbal centers than women, which also means that they tend to end the conversation quicker than women.

Therefore, you have to take the man’s word for this when they tell you to keep quiet!

12. She reminds me of my ex

This is something that crosses the minds of many men who hate a girl. They hate you but they still want a normal relationship and therefore they think about their ex. Now, they realize that you’re worse than her. Wow! They thought it was impossible!

They start making comparisons between you and their ex, from different points of view – language, body language, dress code, make up, etc. And, starting from this point, whatever the girl does is not good enough for them, as it reveals bad memories for them.

Maybe they’ve got a problem and haven’t forgetten their ex yet!

11. She’s exactly like my mother

Men fear when they have these kinds of thoughts. They have always liked to be treated like Mummy’s little prince, but now it’s enough! They are grown-ups, adults, they stand for themselves and know exactly what they want in life.

Men are finally free, not under their mum’s wing anymore, therefore they definitely don’t want a girl who treats them like they were mummy’s babies. They need something else and somebody else by their side, who doesn’t simply tell them what to do or not to do.

They need maternal affection – oh, yes, a lot of it – they will never reject such a thing from the girls in their lives, but they also seek out something new and somebody who can give full value to each of their actions.

10. I don’t give a damn about what she does, thinks or feels

A man who’s in love is always alert, even after having gotten used to what his girlfriend does during the day, or how she reacts in different situations.

Once his feelings change from love to hate, he won’t be willing to impress her, to help her and to keep the other men away from her.

An indifferent man who lets his girlfriend handle all the problems she’s got and doesn’t get involved in any way is definitely a man who hates this girl!

Sometimes, this girl isn’t even in his friend zone! We’re not sure what has happened in-between, but things have definitely turned into something that can’t be called care or interest in somebody!

9. She looks exactly like the other girls around

When a man realizes that he hates his girlfriend, he starts comparing her with other women, usually showing her that whatever she does is worse than the others around.

“Why don’t you dress up more elegantly, like Helen, for example?” “You are so jealous, why can’t you be more relaxed, just like you other friends?”

A man should not say things that could make his girlfriend feel bad.

I’m sure that if you could read his mind and find out about this thought, you’d ask him if he would like you to compare him with other men around. We all know the answer, don’t we?

8. I’m sick and tired of her

Sometimes people give up much too quickly and break up for stupid reasons! They don’t even bother fixing something or searching for the cause of their problem.

In general, men think like this when faced with the first obstacle in life. They are quite scared and fear what might happen. And they find it easier to think like this and sometimes to drop these words.

And then they remember every bad thing that has ever happened in their life, because of you, of course. You, you, you, and only you.

They forget and ignore every beautiful and romantic moment they spend together. They feel that they have already made too many sacrifices and they simply feel sick and tired.

7. I’m embarrassed to be seen with her

Look at her! She’s not… beautiful. And look at her clothes! Horrible! And the way she walks…

It’s ok to have situations where you do not want to go out together with the person you love. Everybody understands you need some time for yourself, too.

Or, maybe you don’t like the way she dances or gets dressed. But, let’s admit it, it wasn’t a problem at the beginning of your relationship. On the contrary, you were proud and happy to be in love. You knew that there were details about her that you could overlook.

But things have changed since, and now even the smallest thing you don’t like about her seems so huge!

6. I’m not interested in her (anymore)

You, girl, might feel happy that he doesn’t ask you questions about where you have been or what you have done. He doesn’t even say anything when you tell him that it’s girls night or that you have to leave on a business trip for the weekend. You think that he has finally given you the freedom you have longed for. You might be right, but it might mean that he has lost interest in you and he doesn’t give a damn about what you do.

Men, it’s obvious that there is something wrong with your relationship. It has become a routine and you do not even know if you care what she feels for you. You feel that she no longer attracts you – in other words, you show no interest for her anymore.

Be honest with yourself and towards your relationship – regardless of how long of short it has been. You both deserve this. It’s the slightest trace of respect!

5. She’s never in my mind

When somebody’s in love, the beloved person comes to his/her mind several times a day.

But when a men hates a girl, it means that he never thinks about her, and no matter what he sees on the big screen or what he hears around, it won’t remind him of her.

Even if by some miracle a scent comes to his nostrils and reminds him of her, he’ll get her picture in his head but he never feels her down deep in his heart and soul.

4. She’s not part of my future plans

When in such situations, men often use the excuse that they only like to live in the moment and not think about the future, as things can happen that ruin your plans. It’s not completely false, but neither is it completely true, as a man who wants to spend most of his time with a girl does anything that’s under his control to invite her somewhere, to go out, to spend the most of his time with her and to take advantage of every second spent together.

Things change when he hates this girl, as he can’t make any future plans – or he can, but she won’t be included – as we’re all sure he wants to get rid of her as soon as possible!

3. I’m not afraid to be alone

There are a lot of men who have lost feelings for their female partners, but they simply don’t say anything, they don’t break up for fear that they might end up alone and never find someone to get along with.

There are also men who are not afraid of loneliness, who are happy to be lonely so that they can search for someone better. They feel very confident in themselves and in their powers and want to show you that they can manage alone. They don’t need anybody’s help or support.

2. I don’t love her

Ohhh! It’s bad, really bad! And it also hurts! A lot!

Most men don’t say it out loud, it’s only in their minds, but it’s not ok if such a thought crosses their minds.

It’s clear that your relationship – or whatever there is between you two – has to stop. For good and indefinitely! For the sake of both of you!

Neither of you deserves to be unhappy and with such thoughts it’s obvious that he’s not going to have a nice attitude towards the girl by his side. And sometimes, it’s useless to ask why. It simply happens.

1. The fairy tale is over

Let’s get it straight. A man can check out other women on the street, but when he gets home, he will not remember any of them. Science says that men are genetically “programmed” to sometimes turn their heads and have a look at women, who they forget a few seconds later. What a pathetic excuse! Should we worry?

Fantasies are also fine, but not if you spend all your time imagining someone else besides your partner and thinking more about the other person than about the person by your side.

Men happen not even to realize what is going on. Or they do, but when it’s too late, when the spell is already broken.

Some things are not meant to be! Period!