Do you have a friend who has always liked older men? And by older we mean at least 10 to 15 years older? What is the attraction and what makes guys her age such a no-no.

Well, to answer these questions, a team of researchers set out to understand the science behind the attractions between a young woman and an older man. Well, for starters, men prefer women between ages 20 and 24, regardless of their own age. This means that young women in this age bracket are already naturally predisposed to attract an older man. This is because men think that a woman is at her best in this age bracket, and the moment she surpasses it, she begins her decline.

Even better, the research deciphers why these younger women don’t have a hard time getting into romantic relationships with these older men. As opposed to men, who are of course focused on level of attractiveness and fertility, when women get more financially independent and confident in themselves, their focus changes from the hottest hunk in the hood, to the guy who can provide material resources, and is mature enough to be in a relationship. Additionally, the age of preference also increases, hence these women find themselves dating older men, for various reasons, including the 15 listed below.

15. They Are More Established

According to a whisper confession, guys who are the same age as their partners seem like young little boys. This can be explained by the fact that an older man is more established, so his vibe will be about more mature, refined and sophisticated. For example, an older guy has a great house, really nice condo, admirable career going, and has money saved or invested. To most ladies, although older men don’t have the energy to be half as fun as their younger counterparts, it is really super attractive to hear a man talk about the latest stock market trades, as opposed to who won in a game of pool at the club.

14. They Are Well-Read

Older men have more enticing conversations, as opposed to their younger counterparts. This is mostly because they are well-read, and not on the best muscle gainer but rather, self-improvement novels and literature. As a result, a younger woman will be enticed with the crazy pack of knowledge the guy has, finding him more interesting. In more serious cases, these ladies will comfortably seek advice from these men, in order to also sound sophisticated and cultured. Additionally, in the event that they attend serious conferences, they will confidently add relevant and witty comments, to a discussion. A man who can hold a conversation and impart well-informed and educated opinions during discussions is always a turn on.

13. They Are Mature

Older men are mature because they will not make inappropriate jokes that will cause a fight. Since they have more dating experience, they understand the basics of what makes a woman tick, such as need for communication, romance, as well as physical and emotional needs. Older men don’t force their partners to hang out with friends who only go down shot after shot, and displaying their unruly behaviour at the club. Better yet, they are mature enough to understand that a proper date is defined by quiet evenings and interesting conversations. Mature men are less governed by over-the-top emotions and childish behaviour, which is very attractive to young women because it means they will waste less time in petty squabbles about inconsequential things with their partner.

12. They Are Confident

Having experienced life and taken time to understand themselves, older men tend to be more secure and confident than younger fellas. Their experience, spanning from financial, romantic and intimate relationships, have made them more confident in their sexual prowess, financial freedom, romance antics and conflict resolution. As opposed to a young man who might resort to sleeping with a myriad of women to prove that he is macho, an older man will instead focus on the needs of his partner, making sure that they have the perfect sexual chemistry and compatibility. Additionally, older men don’t subject their partners with erratic personality issues, since they are rooted and well aware of who they are, and the direction they need to take in life.

11. They Understand Chivalry

As reported in the Daily Mail, only one in seven men will offer their seat to a woman on a bus or train, while a third say they never assist mothers struggling with heavy prams. Additionally, three in five men appreciate women holding doors open for them. These stats beg the question ‘is chivalry officially dead?’

Luckily, women dating older men report to still enjoying this rare aspect of dating. Older men will open the car door for you and close it, allow you to enter a building first, and pull a chair for you at the restaurant. These gestures are sweet and caring and sets the men apart from the boys.

10. They Know How To Give You Gifts

The art of gift giving can be sophisticated, though older men have mastered the art of personalized gifting. Older men understand that gifting reveals how they think about their partners, and how much they value them. Consequently, their gifting prowess is excellent. By understanding the psychology of personalization and using gift guides, older men are able to wow their partners easily, no matter how cliché a gift might seem. Ranging from a simple coffee mug, tote bag or an exotic holiday somewhere, as long as the product or service is customized, it is a great go. Lastly, due to their financial freedom, the cost of personalization never scares them off.

9. They Do Not Have Roommates

As we have established, most young men are still trying to find their financial footing, which means that if they are not living in a small apartment, they share a big one with roommates. Sadly for their partners, this is a turn-off. After all, which lady is ready to start the toilet seat ‘up or down’ discussion with her man’s roommates? Let’s not even start discussing an argument on different uses of space. While you and your partner need a romantic night indoors, his roommate prefers a night of drinking with his gang, IN the apartment! To avoid all this, an older man who can afford his own spacious apartment, suffices.

8. They Have More Time For Fun

As opposed to younger men who have to spend more time proving themselves and building a career, hence lacking enough time for holidays and fun, older men have more time for fun. Coupled with bank accounts full of cash, older men sweep women off their feet through enticing and uninterrupted holidays and expensive outings. For most women, this is better than a guy who manages to take you out to a substandard place, after begging for his time. Worse still, you wouldn’t want him jumping on his knickers in the middle of a nookie session, because his boss called, and needed to see him immediately. In such a case, why not just date the boss?

7. They Have Money And Know How To Spend It

Older men are not struggling to make cash. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, Americans’ net worth skyrockets from the age of 35 to 44, and 45 to 54, taking an upward jump, the next decade. Clearly, older men are able to afford women the kind of lifestyle they love. Even better, is the ability of these men to make sane and wise decisions with their money, since they have had enough experiences. This is completely opposite of young men who are just getting exposed to money, are excited by it, and are making poor financial decisions.

6. They Are Better Communicators

An older man sure has experience dating women and so understands and values communication in a relationship. While the younger counterparts don’t understand when to listen and when to contribute, an older man will perfectly know when to simply listen to you and hold you. If he needs to respond, he sure will be respectful and maintain eye contact, just to make a woman feel safe and listened to. What’s even better is that their experience has caused them to understand the signals a woman propagates. This means that instead of unnecessarily fighting with you verbally, they take the hit and discuss issues once you are calm and collected.

5. They Are Better At Hanky Panky

They say practice makes perfect, right? Well, this is exactly what you realize after getting down to business under the sheets with an older man. With years of practicing, he now understands to perfection all the crazy spots in a woman’s body. He knows exactly how to touch you, how long to touch you, when to turn you, and even stop an orgasm just to keep going. Heck, he can even feel the pheromones when you are feeling “hot”. Want to experience crazy sex positions and foreplays you’ve never thought about? An older man is the perfect sport for you. Forget the stories about not getting it up, and ask yourself why Viagra shops are not just about to close, then enjoy the ride.

4. They Just Get You

There is an unwritten rule about dating men who are at least 5 years older than you. Do you know why? Apparently, men below that age bracket will not truly get you. Basically, they are not mature enough to be on the same reasoning level as you. A man who is 5 years + older will understand your goals, share the same visions with you, and have a sober and witty conversation about the same. While men your age will be occupied with talking about splurging money at the next concert, your older boo will help you find the best investment options in town.

3. They Are Patient

An older man understands and values patience, while young men don’t value the same. It is no wonder that an older man will take as long as it takes to have a woman accept him, compared to a younger man who’d stop chasing just because his target did not drop her pants after the first date. Additionally, based on their past successes and failures, older men are able to clearly understand the meaning and importance that patience bears. This skill is attractive especially when a woman knows that you will be patient at her worst moods, letting her vent, and preventing an argument from turning ugly.

2. They Plan Amazing Dates

Thanks to his experience, a mature guy knows exactly how to pull off a great date. To impress you, he will make sure that he takes you to a place where you can enjoy great quality food, excellent service, romantic ambience, which also gets you in the right mood for discussing personal stuff. This is the complete opposite of what younger guys do. They instead take you to noisy places, where they usually hang out with the gang. Such places are characterized by things such as ‘self service’, ‘pay at the cashier please’ and waitresses who have no idea what proper service means. Worse still, the dates end up with you frowning over the shady waitress who kept giving you the side eye, while your catch was busy browsing his Instagram.

1. They Have A Clear Sense Of Style

Want to have a man that will command respect with his dressing? Then, try an older man. As they mature, men tend to develop a great sense of style and taste. Whether you are at home or not, you are sure that your man will always show up dapper than the rest. Even better, he is aware of the nitty gritties such as how to tie a tie, mix and match, his perfect suit-jacket size, what clothes work for what look, and when. An older guy even has his own favorite tailor, who customizes his clothes as they should. Definitely better than Joe, whose only style is his rugged jeans and an oversized shirt.