Tinder can be a difficult app to use. While it’s widely known for being a hookup app, people have found their husband or wife on Tinder. Even though it’s possible to find dating success through Tinder, some people haven’t had any on the app. One swipe has the power to determine what your weekend will look like, which is why it can be frustrating to spend hours on a dating app to find out that nobody has swiped right on you.

Some men swipe right continuously and just wait until they find a match. But, not all women do that. While there are some women who will swipe right on whoever, most women will look very thoroughly over your bio to see if you’re someone they could see themselves hooking up with. We want to be careful with who we hook up with or who we choose as our romantic partners in the future, so we tend to spend more than 0.2 seconds looking at your bio.

For some men, women can be extremely complicated to read. Why would somebody swipe left when you’re a quality person who has spent time making sure their bio looks charming, witty, and attractive? You’re about to find out. There are some rules that men need to use when they get on Tinder that can keep them from coming across as a douche bag, lazy, or uninteresting. For any man who wants to know what women want in a tinder bio, here are 15 things they certainly don’t want.

15. Boring Bio

Most women going on Tinder are looking for some excitement or entertainment. If you have in your bio, “I like fishing. Just ask anything else,” it probably won’t increase your chances of getting a match. If we’re going to make the first move and message you, it won’t be easy if all we know is that you like fishing and nothing else.

Put something in your bio that’s interesting about you. I saw a guy once on Tinder who had 5 reasons why you should swipe right on him. Every reason he listed included a witty and clever joke. It made me want to swipe right since he seemed like an interesting person.

If you climbed Mt. Everest, saved dolphins, or broke a world record, put it in your bio. There is nothing wrong with a guy that likes fishing, but try to put a humorous twist on it.

14. Girls In Your Pictures

Are the girls in your pictures friends with benefits? Are they your sisters or cousins? Are they your exes? Is it your wife? We’ll never know. When you include girls in your Tinder pictures, it makes it look like you’re hung up on one of them and just can’t let go. It’s basically equivalent to talking about your exes on the first date. Most people know by now that is a big no-no, so including women in your pictures should be just as bad to you as that.

If you see a girl who’s surrounded by good looking men at a bar, chances are that you won’t go up and approach her until she’s free to talk. It’s the exact same way on Tinder for women. Pictures with sisters can be cute and show that you’re a good brother, though. So, if you do post a picture with female family members, make sure it’s a picture where people can actually tell that you’re siblings.

13. Bad Conversationalist

Being a bad conversationalist is one of the best ways to avoid getting a date. If a woman has swiped right on you and you can’t keep the conversation going, she’ll be more than happy to un-match with you. I’m sure this applies to men when they have a tinder match, too.

With some people being attached to their phones all the time, it can be difficult to keep a conversation entertaining. There are a few people that have forgotten how to interact with people outside of Facebook or Instagram. Women want to be around someone who knows how to say something besides, “I’m good,” or “my day was okay today.” We don’t want your message to be short and then end – we want an actual conversation.

If you can start a message with a girl on Tinder with a lighthearted pun and are able to dig deeper into learning about the girl and telling her more about you, you’ll be winning.

12. No Picture

There are some things worse than having pictures with women and pictures where you look like a player. One of those things is not having any picture at all. While there are several things that will determine if a girl swipes right or not, pictures are extremely important.

I know of some people who just swipe right on everybody as fast as they can because they think it’s wrong to judge how someone will be by how they look. That’s a kind and considerate thing to do, but for a lot of people, Tinder is based off of physical attraction. If you think someone is attractive, you swipe right and if you match, then you can explore what their personality is like.

But if your bio has no picture, then some people may think that you’re a bot, you’re insecure, or you’re not serious about tinder and are just looking around or creeping.

11. The Guy Is Unattractive

This reason might sound harsh, but for girls who have a very visual mind, it can be a valid reason as to why you aren’t getting matches.

Men are more often visual than women and are likely to swipe right in less than a second on a girl that is eye candy for them. But, don’t let that fool you – some girls are that exact way, too. You can’t really get to know somebody when deciding to swipe left or right besides a small bio which makes it easy for people to reject anyone who they aren’t sexually attracted to at first sight. If a girl doesn’t think you’re cute in the three second span she sees your profile, she might just swipe left.

Looks aren’t what keeps somebody in a relationship, but it is often what starts a relationship. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so don’t let one girl’s opinion on how good looking you are get you down.

10. Weird Quotes

“Stop asking me to trust you while I’m still coughing up water from the last time you let me drown.”

Men, this is not what we want to see in your Tinder bio. People love deep and meaningful quotes, but there is a time and place for them. Tinder is not that place. Yes, women want a man that can be deep, but if you’re sticking quotes like that in your bio, then you’ve become a little too deep. Tinder is a place to joke around, come up with funny puns, and experience clever pick-up lines. In all seriousness though, it can be kind of funny to see a guy attempt to be deep on such a laid-back app.

Keep your bio and your first couple of conversations with the girl you match with lighthearted and easy. Putting deep quotes in your bio makes you look complicated. You can get into deeper stuff on your dates.

9. Douchebag Vibes

It’s true that girls fall for douchebags sometimes. But most of the time, they don’t meet those douchebags through Tinder. There are several ways that you can appear to look like a playboy and chase all the women off.

One way you can do that is by having a bunch of ab pictures. Women love abs; there’s no doubt about that. But, when you have a bunch of mirror pictures of your six-pack, it can give off the impression that you’re obsessed with yourself and your body. Although having abs doesn’t mean that you’re judgmental, a small percentage of girls assume that fit men judge girls who aren’t as fit as them.

Having a shirtless picture of you from a vacation or something isn’t a bad thing. But when EVERY single picture is a mirror pic of you flexing at the gym, you’ll have a problem.

8. You Look Like A Catfish

Girls might swipe left if you look like a catfish. Nobody wants to waste their time on someone who isn’t even real. You could be using your time to build up a real relationship, but if you’re talking to a catfish that time has the potential to be wasted.

It’s pretty easy to tell if someone is a catfish on Tinder, and most people won’t waste their time on someone who won’t agree to go on a date with them even though they’re a match.

If you only have one picture of you up and its somewhat pixilated, you could be getting skipped over because people think you’re fake or a bot. Not having your Spotify or Instagram synced with the app can make you appear fake, too. People who have their Instagram account attached to their bio look more real than someone who doesn’t.

7. There Is Something Off About Your Career

6. You’re On The App To Make Friends

Tinder can be a good place to make friends if you move to a new city and want to meet some people. But, there is a group section for that on Tinder if you want to add more people to your social circle. If you’re on the dating section of Tinder and specify that you’re only there to make friends, we’re going to swipe right. It’s understandable that people want to make friends, but most girls aren’t on Tinder looking for a guy best friend. We’re either looking for a potential partner or a hookup.

There are apps such as Bumble that have a BFF section where you can find people who are also looking to make new friends. The bottom line is to make sure you’re on an app that will cater to your needs if you’re looking to make friends.

5. We Don’t Want A Long Distance Relationship

I understand that some men want to pay money for Tinder plus to talk to girls that live in different cities than them. Maybe they’re travelling for work and want to match with somebody from their hometown, or maybe they’re tired of girls in their city. The possibilities are endless. But, when we see that you’re 2,000 miles away, that makes us automatically want to swipe left. People on Tinder are usually there for one reason: to get a date. We can’t get a date with you if you’re not driving distance.

Long distance is hard. There are many people I know that have made it work, but I really don’t believe that it is ideal for anybody. If you love someone, you’re going to want to be around them. So, if we get the choice between entering a long distance relationship or going on a date with a guy that’s two miles away, most of us are going to choose the guy that’s closer.

4. Kids In Your Picture

There’s nothing wrong with kids. Kids are adorable, funny, and can make your heart feel like it’s melting. But, there is a problem when you don’t specify in your bio if the kid is yours or not. Us women all have our unique preferences for what we’re looking for in a guy. Some of us wouldn’t mind dating someone with children, but some of us just aren’t ready to take on that role yet. It’s easy to assume that someone has a kid if their first picture is of them holding a baby.

Seeing men with kids can be a huge turn on for women. It shows that you have the potential to be a good dad if we want someone we can start a family with. Make sure you include if a kid in the picture is your son, nephew, or friend’s baby. It can really make a difference on if you get a match or not.

3. Lots Of Negativity

Having something about how you hate drama queens in your bio is the greatest way to show that you have the power to turn girls into drama queens. If your bio is just full of negativity and about how all the women you’ve found in the past just suck, that will be one of the most effective ways to get us to swipe left.

It’s kind of like when girls say, “I only hang out with guys because girls are just too full of drama.” People who say stuff like that are usually the person that causes the problems in a relationship or friendship.

Being around a positive person can make you feel energized and encouraged. Life isn’t perfect all the time, but a good attitude can help when things go wrong. A good attitude will attract girls who are worth your time.

2. Bad Grammar

Women love a man who is intelligent and smart. If you have, “your aint my girlfrend yet but u could be,” in your bio, that will turn us off. We want to be able to understand the texts you send us. We all make grammar mistakes sometimes, so a mistake once in a while is not a bad thing. If it’s constant bad grammar all the time though, we might lose interest in you.

English is not an easy language, so if you’re just learning it, it’s understandable. However, if you’re a college student who was born in America that still doesn’t know how to put a sentence together, we won’t be going for you.

Grammar isn’t always an issue for women, but you would be surprised at what percentage of women get turned off by bad grammar.

1. Partying and Smoking

It’s 0kay to drink beer with your friends or do whatever you want to do – I’m not pretending to be the moral police. Everybody needs to go out and have fun once in a while. But if your bio consists of “420,” and has a bunch of pictures of you smoking then your chances of attracting girls on Tinder probably goes down by eighty percent.

We’re not going to reject a guy for smoking weed or drinking. If that is ALL your life consists of though, you’re going to be rejected by a good majority of women. We don’t want to deal with a guy who cares more about partying than anything. Ambition is sexy, and guys who party 24/7 don’t appear to be very ambitious.

There are girls that like partiers, especially if they’re looking for a little fun. But making sure your bio isn’t 100% full of party stuff is a good move to make. Tinder can be intimidating, but if you make the best of it, you’ll have a good time.