Crushing on someone is absolutely normal. After all, getting attracted to others is an important part of starting a family. However, it gets a bit complicated when you end up crushing on a married man.

You’re probably thinking being friendly with a married man and knowing your boundaries is harmless. However, what happens when you can’t control your feelings? What if a simple crush suddenly turn into something more; something that might end up ruining a marriage?

Can you live with yourself knowing that you are the cause of infidelity? Can you imagine what it might be like for children to grow up without a father because their dad started a friendly relationship with a woman who had a “simple” crush on him?

Some women might be able to resist the temptation, while others find it more difficult to avoid the married man; sad but true.

Think long and hard before you do anything about your feelings. It’s your decision whether or not you can maintain a platonic relationship with a married man.

Remember, it’s not just your life at stake here. You can do potentially huge damage if you decide to pursue a man who has already shared wedding vows with another woman. You’ll be better off finding someone who doesn’t carry extra baggage.

Incidentally, here are some things women do when they get a crush on married men. Let us know if you also fell for a married man and share with us what you did about your situation.

15. Ask Friends To Set Up Blind Dates

Being in love or simply crushing on someone can bring about a release of happy hormones. Needless to say, the happier you are the more attractive you are to other people. Now instead of pining for that married man you can’t have, why don’t you ask your girlfriends to set you up on a blind date?

Your friends will love the challenge and will eagerly help you find your special other. The best thing about asking your girls to help you look for love is that they will screen the man first before they introduce him to you. This way, you’ll know that the guy you will potentially date is someone your friends already approve of.

14. Be Polite

What happens when the married man you are crushing on is a colleague from your workplace? It gets even more difficult when the married man is also showing signs that he is interested in you. Avoiding this man could be difficult, right?

Finding out that this married man is interested in you could make you feel butterflies in your stomach, but the best thing you can do in this scenario is to be polite. Keep your interactions with the married man as little as possible. Remember to keep things professional. Otherwise, you might end up being the center of office gossips. You wouldn’t like that, would you?

13. Remind Yourself That He’s Married

Sometimes, interacting with the married man you have a crush on is inevitable. As much as you’d like to avoid him, there is just no way getting out of a conversation with him. So, always remind yourself that you are conversing with a married man to keep you and him from committing a terrible sin.

Try bringing up his wife and children in your conversations. This will subtly send out signals that you would like to maintain a platonic relationship with him, despite the fact that you find him attractive. Hopefully, he takes the hint and will not do anything to take advantage of your feelings for him.

12. Love Yourself

Crushing on a married man can give you all sorts of feelings. You’ll probably feel elated when he notices you. Sometimes, you might feel like a wreck when it seems that he doesn’t even know you exist. However, you should never take this personally. Remember, he is married and he should, ideally, only have his eyes and heart for his wife.

Instead of moping around, invest in yourself! Get a new hobby like reading, knitting, or riding a bike. Additionally, why not take some time off work and do some solo traveling? Who know you might even find someone new from one of your travels!

11. Confess your love

Unfortunately, being in love or infatuated makes us do foolish things like confessing our “forbidden” love. Usually, it’s no cause for alarm. You tell a guy that you love him and he either confesses that he’s interested in you or you end up being the victim of unrequited love. You either get what you wish for or you don’t. You might get hurt if it’s the latter, but you’ll move on.

However, telling a married man that you have a crush on him takes a lot of courage (and maybe stupidity). He could take you as his mistress or ignore your affections altogether. Better to be hurt from unrequited love, than becoming a mistress and possibly ruining a marriage you should have respected in the first place.

10. Feel Guilty

Let’s say you’ve gathered the courage, for whatever reason, to confess your admiration for the married man; suddenly, you find yourself realizing that you haven’t thought things through. Guilt slowly creeps in and you can’t stand seeing your crush.

Relax, you were probably just being impulsive. Hopefully, your crush doesn’t mind and doesn’t take your confession against you.

However, it’s possible your crush might take advantage if he’s the type to cheat on his wife. If this happens and you feel guilty about your confession, you can talk to your girlfriends about your situation and do your best to avoid your crush. There’s no reason to pursue a relationship with a married man when you can, eventually, find a man you don’t need to share with someone else.

9. Get Challenged

Other girls, on the other hand, love a good challenge; even if it means competing for a married man’s attention. We do not condone this kind of behavior, but some girls just won’t take “no” for an answer.

Some people want things they can’t have, including other women’s husbands. These girls probably think winning a married man’s affection is something that boosts her self-esteem. It probably makes her feel pretty knowing that she’s able to snag a married guy for herself.

Sadly, this doesn’t mean that the married man sees you as more “valuable” than his wife. Sometimes, guys also just like to fool around and will take anything or anyone that is offered to them.

8. Play Darts or Archery

Believe it or not, playing darts or archery has benefits. It can improve your concentration, release some stress, and enforce some strategic thinking among other things. Playing the said sports could also promote relaxation and boost confidence.

No wonder women, who crush on married men, suddenly like playing darts or archery. We also won’t be surprised to find out if these women use their crush’s wife’s face as a mark for their target practice. Hopefully, playing darts or archery is all just about releasing some tension from their unrequited love and not a sign that a murder is under way.

7. Put on Makeup

Women put on makeup for different reasons. Putting on makeup is a great way to express oneself.

Not only that, using makeup can definitely enhance one’s features, which results to a woman feeling pretty and getting a boost in confidence.

With makeup on, a woman can look more presentable at the workplace and more attractive while going out on dates.

Needless to say, a woman may put on a bit of color on her face when she wants to get noticed by the man she is crushing on. Hopefully, it’s just a little crush and she won’t end up getting hurt by the married man.

6. Buy Perfume

Similar to wearing makeup, using perfume can boost a person’s happiness. You can wear different kinds of scents to match your mood or the type of occasion you are attending. You can choose from a myriad of scents like floral, citrus, or musky among other things. The important thing is you love the scent you’re wearing and that the perfume reacts positively on your skin.

Wearing perfume doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll reel in the guy of your dreams. However, using a seductive scent and that isn’t too overpowering can help you attract your crush’s attention. The question is, “Are you really sure you want to pursue a relationship with a married man if does notice you?”

5. Turn into a Clone

Some women think that looking and acting like your crush’s wife is a sure way to attract his attention. Hence, they go on social media and stalk the wife. Women crushing on a married man will want to know what the wife wears. It’s safe to say that they turn into the wife’s clone. Does she wear plaid or floral dresses? Is she blonde or brunette? What kind of shoes does she wear?

Some women even go so far as to join the clubs that the wife is a member of. Do they like to play tennis? Then it is the right time to include your name on that membership form!

4. Make Sure You Don’t Look Like The Wife

On the other hand, some women would rather not look like her crush’s wife. If she’s blonde and has her hair flowing freely, the other woman will make sure that she has dark roots and has her locks styled.

Also the other girl will probably act differently compared to the Mrs. If the wife is docile, the other woman will be more aggressive. Sometimes, this strategy works on the married man. They get turned on when women take the lead and show those around them that she is no damsel in distress.

Sometimes, men like it when the woman takes charge because it’s a nice respite from having to make all the decisions in life.

3. Know His Zodiac Sign

They say that a person’s zodiac sign reveals a lot about his personality. It is no wonder that some women make it a point to know their crush’s birthday. Needless to say, knowing his date of birth will tell the woman what her crush’s zodiac sign is.

As soon as the woman finds out her crush’s zodiac sign, she turns into an FBI agent and will start digging up all the information she can get her hands on. Armed with a newfound knowledge, she can use these itty bitty details to find out how she can best attract the married man she is crushing on.

2. RENDEZVOUS

Once a woman has done her “research” and has successfully snared her crush, she might eventually get the courage to invite him to go out with her on dates. The couple tries to keep things hush-hush. Until eventually weekly clandestine meetings turn into regular dates. Sometimes, subtlety is even forgotten.

Sometimes the relationship turns into something deeper. Feelings become more intense. Suddenly, the man is left to make a decision. Does he end things with his mistress or will he choose to ignore the sanctity of marriage? If it’s the latter, what’s the assurance that he won’t cheat on his mistress, too.

1. Learn How To Cook or Bake

They say that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. With this in mind, women make some time to learn their way around the kitchen. She finds out what her crush’s favorite meals are and tries to cook them up.

After a few failed attempts, she realizes that she has finally perfected the recipe and is ready to bring that sumptuous meal to the married man of her dreams.

The guy could take a bite or accept the whole dish to be polite. Or he could take advantage of the woman’s affections and manipulate her into doing something both of them might end up regretting.

Again, it’s important to think things through before deciding to go after that married man you are crushing on.