15 Ways Any Guy Can Attract An Older Woman
Love is the best feeling in the world. No debate can ever refute this claim. When a person is in love, everything seems to have a life in it, even inanimate objects. The winds tousle your hair and you can smell the scent of your crush. The rain drops which patter on your face, reminds you of her touch. Love can have that effect on you. The wind whistling through trees seems like it’s whispering your name. So yeah, love is a priceless feeling. And when one falls in love, no one is happier than him in the entire world. And yes, love knows no boundaries.
Love can happen in any age group. At an unripe age, it may be termed as infatuation. But at a ripe age, it is just not that. And hence everything is possible in love, even for a man to fall in love with an older woman. Not all men in this world come into a relationship to derive pleasure. Some come together because they know the real definition of love. As we age, our beauty creeps inwards. We might not remain that beautiful on the outside, but from the inside, we are more and more. Seldom men can understand this simple fact. And those who do are a rare species. So if you are also a person who has fallen for an older woman, here are some tips for you to woo her. Go out and make her yours. Thank us later!
15. Be a father figure to her children
Every woman expects her hubby to be the best father to his kids, but only a few are lucky enough to get such wonderful husbands. So if your crush is not happy with the way her hubby is taking care of her kids, you can help her out. If she is a single mother, then you are super-lucky! Be a good friend to her kids, love them and your efforts are sure to create a good image of you in her mind. You can easily earn her friendship and also an invitation to visit her home. Never miss this opportunity to exhibit your parental skills. If you really love her, you’ll love her kids too. Don’t ever fake love for her kids. That’d be the worst possible scene for any woman and she’d be too broken to move on with her life in the future. And with continued efforts, one fine day she may voluntarily ask you to be with her forever, keep up the hope buddy!
14. Compliment Her On Her Ageless Beauty
When it comes to aging, women are more insecure as compared to men. After a point of time, they stop giving too much importance to grooming or personal care, because most of them develop an inferiority complex. They assume that there is no one who will compliment them as there are so many hot young girls around. She is still beautiful and you genuinely find her beautiful, so break the myth and start praising her beauty. You’ll see happiness slowly coming on her face and a slight change in behavior. Since there is someone to notice that she has made herself, she’d dress up just for you. She’ll become more enthusiastic towards life. Make her feel special in front of your good looking young colleagues or friends. That’s the least you can do and the most she expects!
13. Remind Her That Age Is Just A Number
“Age is a case of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it don’t matter,” said the well-known American athlete Satchel Paige. Your lady love may be in her 40’s but the signs of aging are clearly not visible. But don’t ever ask her age! No matter how curious you are to know her exact age, you must embrace silence and comfort her in the phase she is currently in. And it’s always good if you treat her like a young girl. During a conversation, purposefully include words like “See, youngsters like us” and “It looks good on a young girl like you” etc. But be careful not to do so in a mocking manner, you should sound real and earnest.
12. Are you mature enough?
She is confident and a mature woman who has the capabilities to handle her life with the highest degree of self-reliance. It’s obvious, she expects her boyfriend to be brave and disciplined. And if you so desire to have her in your arms, you must adapt some great behavioral traits, that’s the need of the hour. Prove that you are the best when it comes to solving her complicated problems, respect her privacy and eliminate those funky teenage thoughts from your mind. Although there is an age gap between the two of you, make it a point that there is no intellectual gap. Be mature enough to sound reasonable and responsible enough, who can care for a woman.
11. Make An Effort To Understand Her
By now you should be completely aware of her likes and dislikes, if not then find out. However, you don’t have to burn the midnight oil for that. Let us assume that she is interested in fashion designing, don’t claim out rightly that you are also fascinated by the same. You will be in deep trouble if she finds out that you are not, and you’ll be branded as a bluff. Rather than lying you can ask her to share some useful tips, fashion in this case. That will help you in presenting yourself in a better way besides, it will sound genuine that you really are appreciative of what she does. Don’t forget to chip in your honest reviews about the things she told you, she’d be more than willing to accept critical comments. In fact, she’d be thrilled to talk on her favorite topic with an intellectual person and would always be ready to clarify your thoughts, since she’s a pro and you’re just a dilettante. Whenever you find something related to her field, share the information and ask her thoughts. That’s how you build a rapport.
10. Be a class apart
As you have observed, there are many youngsters who date an older woman just for money. They look for a woman who is already settled in her career and has enough money in her bank account. Women are aware of such selfish creatures, perhaps, that is why they just avoid dating a person who is younger to them. Prove that you are different and a gentleman for that matter. Never ever ask for money from your crush unless you have a dire need for money, with valid reasons. Don’t gift her anything just to impress her, she has already seen several gold diggers. Women who are mature know that expensive gifts are given just to impress. Rather than spending money on expensive gifts, spend it on having priceless virtues. That’ll be more helpful.
9. Don’t be sleazy
Perfection is always admired. A man with a well-sculpted body would naturally be appealing in the eyes of people. However to get that look you’ll have to sweat hard in the gym and also invest time for personal care. But is it really required? There are many movies with a storyline that portrays a young handsome guy seducing an older woman by the dint of his masculine body. It’s a myth! Women like good looking guys, no doubt, but it doesn’t mean that they’ll always fall for a guy who’ll try to seduce them. Don’t get sleazy, baring your body now and then; she’ll brand you as a pervert. There is a fine line of difference between presenting yourself in the perfect manner and seducing. Impress her, don’t try to seduce!
8. Sweat hard for sweet rewards
Italian actress Sophia Loren was right when she said, “Sex is like washing your face – just something you do because you have to. Sex without love is absolutely ridiculous. Sex follows love, it never precedes it.” I guess all of us would agree with this. Sex is a beautiful thing when it happens at the right point of life. If you are behind your crush only for sex or you’re living with this fallacy that she would love to have a physical relationship with a young man, you are totally wrong. No matter, whether she is in her 20’s or 50’s, a true woman will never bare her deepest secret to satisfy her sexual needs. Don’t see her like a sex machine, she will never come to you if you have that approach. Be a gentleman with genuine respect for her, your character will attract her like a magnet. Not your organ!
7. Share your dreams with her
You have hundreds of dreams about your marriage. And most importantly, you are very sure that you are going to be the best husband in the world. You have been thinking of looking after your wife like a queen, such pure thoughts! No woman can reject love if she comes to know how much respect you have for the institution of marriage. But how would you convey that to your crush? Often you get to speak about the topic of marriage, or future plans with your colleague or friends, but at that moment, express your dreams about your future with her. You will see a charm in her eyes, yes, you are indirectly conveying to her the advantages of having a relationship with you.
6. Don’t repeat the mistakes of her past lovers
Not all, but a majority of the women who are single in their mid-ages, have a reason that has kept them away from falling in a relationship. It may be a sad story of a breakup or a divorce, find out what happened in her past and remove the fear of love from her mind. She might have experienced a bitter life due to an addicted husband or an unfaithful boyfriend who made her lose trust in relationships. Be an opposite character to her previous partner and earn her trust. Give her so much love that she makes a new definition of love.
5. Give her hope of a better future
When it comes to falling in love she may not be happy with dating a younger guy who is financially unstable. Of course, there is a reason, she is middle aged and she doesn’t want to spend her remaining life to save pennies to build a home or support a husband who earns lesser than her. For most of the young men out there, earning a six digit salary in the early years of their career is not so easy, hence they postpone the dream of buying a home or a car. No matter whether you are owning an apartment or not, bring a hope in her mind that you are going to be a successful person. Work hard and your small achievements can also alter her perceptions. If there is love in the equation, a solution is always imminent.
4. Patience is the highest virtue
There is a big difference between how you speak to a woman of your age and an older woman. Your crush may be a bit dominating, she can’t help it. She has far more experience about life than you. Due to her bossy nature, guys may not be around her, especially youngsters as they tend to avoid such women. But, it’s okay, there is no one who is perfect. Tolerate her and no matter who makes the mistake, apologize immediately. Ego is never needed in a relationship. She always needs someone who listens to her, perhaps, you will become a necessity very soon. Patience is the key to success!
3. Be the one she wants
Wait, you don’t have to be her personal guard to win her love but, a protective man. Women always want to feel protected and safe, your crush is also not an exception to it. Though she pretends to be a confident single woman, deep inside she may be missing a man who can stand beside her during hard times. Show love and care to her. When she reaches home after spending her night at a party, drop a message to know whether she reached home safely or not. It’s a chance to show your concern that she is not receiving from others. Whenever she is in a problem, be the first one to respond. Slowly she will start getting attracted to you, and that’s the beginning of a new chapter called love.
2. Be Stimulating!
Of course, at present she is not your girlfriend, however, you can invite her for a lunch or a picnic just like a good friend. When a person spends too much time with someone, they automatically begin to develop a bond. At least that stranger feeling would fade away. Whenever you meet her, make sure that the moments are stimulating enough that she remembers your meeting with a twinge of pain in her heart. For example, when it rains just lie that you haven’t carried your umbrella. The thing which would happen next would be a memory that you would cherish for life. The both of you would be walking under a single umbrella with your arms around her shoulders. What can be more stimulating than this?
1. The Final Confession
Okay, this is the most straightforward way to win the love of your crush. If you have some hesitation in following the 14 tips that are mentioned above or you feel that they’re not working, you can directly confess your love to her. She is older than you, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t propose to her directly. Ask for her hand and reveal your hidden love. If you are fortunate enough, she will say yes, good luck! In fact, older women prefer keeping things straight, rather than beating around the bush. They expect the same attitude from men too. Even if she says no, don’t lose heart. She might be testing you.