Ever wonder how “that guy” got such a smokin’ hot girl? Every think to yourself “I’m way hotter than that dude… what’s he got that I don’t?” Well, if you’re actually thinking this way, the answer to your question is “personality.” However, it’s not just personality, it’s an attractive personality. Now, there are definitely some unattractive personalities out there, as you may know. If you can only think about what an awesome and sweet guy you are, you may want to take a look at what you really think about yourself. It’s not just about giving women everything they want in life, and it’s not just about making sure you look good doing it. It’s about being you, and attracting someone who is attracted to you. Comparing yourself to others is a poor decision that can turn you bitter.

Instead, it’s time to embrace the personality traits that bring out the best in you, so you can attract a woman that appreciates you for you and enjoys being around you in your most natural state. Check out how women respond to these 15 personality traits, and figure out which one you can enhance in yourself to find the girl of your dreams.

15. Ditch The Douche

Seriously, guys…this whole bashing other women thing is pretty old in the dating world. Playing everything super cool is also nearly out the door. If you’re looking for the perfect woman that fits you best, stop acting like you’re better than everyone in the room and you’re the most dominant male at the bar. Even if you truly believe this, maybe it’s time to start tapping into the other sides of your personality to give you more of an edge. If the douchey you isn’t attracting the ladies (or attracting the wrong ladies), find the different sides of you that will attract the ladies that you’ve been looking for all along. If you don’t think you’re a douche, maybe do some soul searching to figure out what you’re doing to attract girls.

14. Warm And Fuzzy

A lot of guys think that they’re super sweet dudes. They think that they’re nice, and when women don’t respond to it (or respond to it in a negative way), they start getting all butt-hurt and saying that they’re “too nice.” If this is the case with you, maybe it’s time to find a different social circle or a different part of your personality to tap into. Being nice isn’t a bad thing. Actually, it’s a good thing. If a woman isn’t responding to it the way you want, move on. Don’t continue applying your warm and fuzzy personality to someone who isn’t into the warm and fuzzy. It’s that simple.

13. Rough Around The Edges

Many women are attracted to the guy who is a little rough around the edges. Not to be confused with douchebags, guys who are rough around the edges tend to show the effort that they’re putting into being social. They don’t look desperate, necessarily, but they will have an occasional faux pas here or there. The trick with attracting women to your rough around the edges personality is being very self-aware, but not self deprecating. Don’t bash yourself; laugh at yourself and fix the things you think are mistakes right in front of her. Show her you have a good heart even if you aren’t the “perfect human specimen.”

12. All Work, No Play

Women who like a man with a strong work ethic generally also have a strong work ethic. If you’re the all work and no play type of guy, expect the woman who is attracted to you to be the same. You know what you’re working for, and if you share that information with her while you explore what she is working for, the two of you can bond over your personality types. You might think this personality type attracts a lot of gold diggers, and in some cases it can, but be aware that not all women who like nice things expect you to pay for them and not all women who like nice things are most interested in your wallet.

11. Work Hard, Play Hard

If you’re a self-rewarding type of guy, there are definitely women who are attracted to you. As stated in number 12, a strong work ethic can be incredibly attractive to women. When you add that extra flare of rewarding yourself for your hard work, you’re not just showing women that you like the best of both worlds, you’re showing her that you know the value of your time and you want to enjoy yourself in that time. This personality will usually attract women who are adventurous (in bed and wherever else). In general, they will also have a strong work ethic, so it’s important to be aware of that.

10. Pure Logic All The Time 

If your personality is 100% logical to you, and you are all about finding the logical explanations for everything, there are women out there for you. These women are generally more likely to engage in heated discussions with you about politics, religion, or even “Rick and Morty.” If you’re a logical person, it’s best for you to attract logical people. It will save you the headache of frustration, and it’ll save the women in your life the headache of trying to show you logic in how they think. Don’t be afraid to embrace your logical side if you know that it is one of your strongest characteristics.

9. The Chill You

With political and social turbulence, chill people are becoming harder and harder to find. That means that the demand for them is actually rising. As we evolve as a society, the idea of peace of mind is incredibly important to many people, and that means your chill personality will be sought after by women who feel the same. Get passionate about what you’re passionate about, of course, but if you’re a generally chill dude, and you are at peace with your chillness, embrace your chill ways by moving conversations more toward things that really matter to you: the peaceful life.

8. The Comedian is always popular 

If you’re most interested in this item, you’ve probably asked several women, “what’s he got that I don’t?” And you’ve probably heard the response, “he makes me laugh,” all the time. If you have an inner comedian, and you know it’s time to unleash him, start to bring him out. People love to be happy. They don’t just laugh when they’re happy, laughing can exponentially increase happiness levels. You don’t have to have an entire stand-up routine practiced for your social situations, most humor comes from observation and quick wit. If you’ve been holding back your internal monologue because you don’t think you’re funny, it’s time to start unleashing the hilarity!

7. Strong Arguments, Strong Bond

This one goes hand in hand with your logical side. However, if you’re more about the research and passion about argument this is also a great way to form a bond with the woman you’ve had your eyes on for some time. One important thing to note about unleashing your argumentative personality is that it’s of the utmost importance that you really embrace the spirit of argument. She doesn’t have to agree with everything you say, and when she does disagree, it’s important to maintain the argument rather than start attacking how she argues. A real argument doesn’t have to be resolved, but both sides should listen to each other and respond accordingly. Keep it cordial and she’ll be enamored.

6. Do you give off an approachable vibe? 

Being approachable isn’t necessarily a personality type, but your approachability can come through in with many different personality traits that you exhibit. The approachable characteristic comes out in “the vibe” people get when they look at you. Ask your friends if you seem like you’re unapproachable (most people who are labeled as unapproachable really don’t recognize that they’re not approachable). If you aren’t, start loosening up a little bit. How can a woman learn anything about your personality if she can’t actually approach you and start a conversation with you?

5. Confidence that comes off as arrogance

The confident personality can become a little bit arrogant if you don’t keep it in check. Being overconfident is a terrible turn off to many women, and can make or break your chances with a girl you’re trying to get with. As a matter of fact, it can get borderline douchey. Though it’s important to have confidence in social and romantic situations, if you want your confidence to shine through the most, you have to be a little careful not to become too arrogant in your actions. If you’re not naturally a confident person, start practicing, but don’t push your confidence too much. Women can tell when you’re trying too hard.

4. Generous with your time and attention. And money.

If you’re a generous person, you know that generosity doesn’t just come in the form of spending money on rounds of drinks or helping a friend with cashflow. Generosity can come in many forms, including being generous with your time and attention. If someone needs you, you are there. If someone needs advice, you give advice… even if you know they aren’t going to actually take it. You don’t have to break your bank to be a generous person. Women love generous men, especially if they themselves are generous people. They’ll be able to spot you from across the room, and the attraction will be unstoppable.

3. Honesty Is The Best Policy

If you’re all about honesty, make sure that part of your personality shines through. Being an honest person doesn’t mean you have to tell her all about your trips to the bathroom or every single thought in your head. Additionally, you don’t have to tell her all of your deep dark secrets just because she asked. You can also be honest about not wanting to share certain information with people. You don’t have to dodge personal questions, you can take them head on by saying things like, “I’m not comfortable talking about that right now,” or “That’s a conversation for when we get to know each other a little better.” This appeases the woman you’re talking to without putting you in an awkward situation.

2. You’re An Open Book

The extreme of the honest person will just let it all out. If you feel like you have nothing to hide, you’re more likely to just say whatever is on your mind at any given moment. You won’t use the phrases that excuse you from answering personal questions, and sometimes you won’t even have to be asked to offer up personal information about yourself. This can be a little overwhelming for a woman who just met you, of course, but it will definitely be appreciated. Just make sure to always think before you speak. You don’t want to offend her by talking too much about your intentions for bedding her.

1. Lucky Charm(ing)

If you’re a charming guy who knows how to play off a woman’s body language to help you say the exact right thing at the exact right time and get her going, you probably don’t really need to be reading this article. However, if you’re trying to get to that level of charm, there are a few things you should know. First of all, being charming is kind of a science (especially if it doesn’t come to you naturally). You don’t want to show her that you’re analysing her every move, but you also don’t want to be too aloof. Second, you really have to understand how body language works. You can be funny and charming, but if your jokes are making her uncomfortable, you might want to tone it down. Finally, don’t lay it on too thick. If you are using your charm too much, the smarter women you’re after will smell bullshit, and be completely turned off.