People use college as a place to experiment and find themselves. Romantic experimentation between women at college has become the topic of several B-rated movies and the fantasies of multiple men. But the thing is, experimentation in college does actually happen — and it’s just as common as you think.

A lot of people have actually been waiting for that moment, and it’s one of the most exciting parts of their entire college experience. Why? Because it’s an opportunity to either explore their romantic orientation, or benefit from the romantic freedom and the approach that many people have to intercourse while in college. Not to mention that many of these “experimenting” moments are often viewed by the rest of society as very normal, and are therefore something that comes with little or no judgment — that said, the fact that people’s romantic choices are still judged in 2017 is ridiculous!

Actually, it’s even recommended that you experiment while in college — a quick Google search will reveal as much. Below are the confessions of 15 women who used their time in school as a means of better understanding their bodies, and what they want. Ultimately leading to them leaving college with an overall fulfilling experience.

15. Missing The Older Women

According to the person behind this confession, when she was in college she had a few very memorable relationships. She claims that she used to be involved with older women when she was in college. As we’ve established, college is a fantastic place to experiment because you are given so much freedom and are exposed to new ideas, so it’s really not surprising that this trickles down into an individual’s approach to relationships, too.

And this woman claims to still look back on those times fondly. She admits to sometimes missing the relationships that she had in her younger years with these women, but she’s also thankful to them for the experience, and is happy that she had the opportunity to be more romantically free in the first place.

14. The Movies Lied

I can think of at least a handful of films where the plot line involves two young, good-looking college students crushing on each other; but the movies don’t always represent an accurate portrayal of what it’s like in the real world. According to this confession, this woman has found out that hooking up with other college females is a lot harder than the movies made it seem (really, no surprise there because Hollywood exaggerates everything), and she has her work cut out for her.

Apparently, after being in college for a reasonable amount of time, she has still only ever met one lesbian. Hmm, maybe she’s going about the whole process in the wrong way, or looking for romance with all the wrong people?

13. Ruined Friendships

According to the person behind this Whisper confession, there is nothing wrong with experimenting while in college, but don’t do it with your best friends unless you want to end up with major regrets. Apparently, this woman had intercourse with her two best friends and then ended up losing two friendships because of it.

This makes sense, because if it was just a “phase” or something that happened because they were curious, rather than actually attracted to each other, then there would be a bit of awkwardness the next day. Which is why it’s probably a safer bet to stick to strangers. That, and if someone in this group does develop feelings for another person, and starts to hang out with them more regularly, there is a good chance that someone is going to be left out.

12. College Experience With A Twist

You may think that most of the women who experiment in college do it with their roommate — if it doesn’t work out it’s going to be a bit of an awkward housing situation — because the close confines may give way to amorous feelings.

However, according to this woman’s confession, she had a college experience with a bit of twist, because it wasn’t with her roommate, but rather with her roommate’s mom. I assume these two met when the girls were moving into their dorm room, but I have no idea how this hookup would have come about. Or how the mom and the student managed to find alone time together. Let’s just hope that her daughter never came home to find her mom in bed with her roommate. Awkward!

11. Memories Live Forever

This person graduated from college a long time ago and is now a 37-year-old woman, who has gone on to date multiple men, and even marry one. She’s divorced now, and she can’t stop thinking about her past. But it’s not her ex-husband that she’s missing, but rather a time from her days in college that she keeps thinking back on. It seems that she is contemplating reliving those memories.

According to this confession, this woman had a lot of “fun-nights” with a college girlfriend, and now, after more than ten years she’s started to wonder if perhaps she is more into women than she initially thought. It’s never too late to explore other options, and experimentation may be more common in college, but it definitely doesn’t have to end there…

10. She Kissed A Girl And She Liked It

In 2008, the world fell in love with Katy Perry’s song, “I Kissed A Girl,” and it probably wasn’t just the catchy tune that people were so obsessed with. Kissing girls in college is definitely a thing, and according to the woman behind this confession, it’s something that she did and surprisingly enjoyed. A lot more than she initially thought she would.

This woman’s confession doesn’t give us enough background to determine whether she discovered she likes kissing girls in college and that the experience led her to realize that she wanted to be with women, or if she simply just enjoyed experimenting. But regardless of the outcome, she was so impressed with the experience that she felt the need to come onto an anonymous app and recommend it to college students everywhere. As she states “I think all girls should try it.”

9. Married A Man, But Stayed Friends

According to the woman behind this confession, she had a lesbian relationship while in college. And although it wasn’t meant to be, and she ultimately ended up with someone from the opposite sex, she appears to have no regrets from the experience. More than that, things between her and the other women seem to have ended amicably; because she claims that they are still friends.

While there is really no background regarding this confession, just from the few words that this woman says, her experience with another woman was something special. She ultimately ended up marrying a man, and so did her ex-girlfriend, but this is obviously a memory that they both look back on fondly, especially if she’s still willing to speak about it.

8. She’s Being Who She Really Wants To Be

This woman is not able to admit to her mother, who she calls “homophobic”, the way that she really feels about other women. It seems that she likes the same gender a lot more than her mother knows.

According to this confession, the woman has been telling her mother that she is studying in the library, but what she is actually doing is having a fantastic time at college and has been experiencing a lot of new things; including lesbian bars and flirting with women. While it doesn’t appear that she has acted on her feelings yet, and the woman she was flirting with is apparently in a relationship, she does appear to be rebelling against her mother, who really needs to be more open-minded.

7. Drunk Is Not The Way To Go

It’s no secret that college students party and drink way too much. During the average student’s college experience, they will probably wake up with one too many headaches, and possibly even a handful of regrets. This confession comes from a woman who also has a regret, but it’s not what you’re thinking. Because it’s not her actions, in this case a lesbian experience, that she wishes she could change; but rather she would simply have liked it to have been under different, more sober circumstances.

According to this confession, this woman is now almost in her thirties and she has been thinking about what happened in college — she can remember everything. And appears to be very keen to try it again, now, and sober.

6. Cheerleading Team Tryouts

People use college as a time to experiment. It’s a well-known but also an overly-exaggerated thing, especially if it involves two young and attractive women (bonus points for them being in a fraternity or on a cheerleading team, apparently).

This woman admits that her first lesbian experience was in college — because she said “first”, I assume there have been multiple other times since this one. She doesn’t offer up much information about what exactly happened, and how she ended up with a woman in the first place; but she does reveal that the woman that she had her experience with was on the same cheerleading team as her. This is no doubt a fantasy of many people, men, and women.

College is not just about academic growth, but also personal growth. It seems that college experiences, much like this one, ultimately help to broaden someone’s horizons.

5. Preferences Are Changing

For this woman, her time in college has been an eye-opening experience in a lot of ways. She claims to have always liked and dated men, but now that she’s in college she is finding herself more and more attracted to people of the same gender.

Her sexual identity is hers to define and hers alone, and apparently she has been giving some serious thought as to what that may be. According to the Whisper confession, she doesn’t want to have a relationship with a woman. But she is definitely considering having a sexual relationship with one, because she’s admittedly attracted to the same sex.

She’s obviously conflicted and not sure if it could be a “phase,” or if it’s something more than that. But, thankfully, college is a wonderful experience to help you find yourself for things just like this.

4. She Was Not Just A Roommate

A lot of people speak about “experimenting in college,”; those three words just seem to go together. But the person behind this confession is a little different to everybody else because she experimented in college, literally.

This woman revealed that her college experimentation had a literal meaning because the woman who she had a relationship with was not only her roommate, but also her lab partner — so they were doing both scientific experiments as well as sexual ones together. Got it!

While she doesn’t offer up much more information about the relationship, she did want to make her sexuality known and admits to being bisexual. But she appeared to have known exactly how she felt even before her relationship with her lab partner, because she said it was “regardless of the experiments.”

3. It’s Not A One Time Thing

According to the person behind this Whisper confession, they had their first (and apparently only) gay experience while in college. While we don’t know how much time has passed since that moment happened, it does appear to have been quite a lengthy amount of time. I say this because the person behind this confession admits to “still wanting more”, even to this day.

The reason as to why they haven’t acted on their actions again is not clear. Maybe they just haven’t had the opportunity because they haven’t found the right person, or maybe they are scared to experiment now that they are no longer in college. Whatever the reason, what we can gather from this confession, is that this woman experienced something she clearly wants to do again.

2. Experimental Bathroom Experiences

According to this person, they had a “hilarious” college experience. What exactly about this confession is hilarious, well, I’m not too sure. But it does make for an interesting story about sexual awakening! According to this Whisper confession, this woman had intercourse in a woman’s bathroom during her Sophomore year.

So it appears that not only did she experiment with new things, but also got a whole lot more adventurous in the places that she decided to have intercourse. Also, anyone who has ever been in college will know that bathrooms are shared by multiple people. Unless you use them in the middle of the night, it’s highly unlikely that you won’t run into another student. So, this was apparently quite a risky move and one that this person is clearly proud of.

1. Don’t Know How To Do It

Unlike the other confessions on this list, this one is a little different because according to this woman, she hasn’t acted on her desires to experiment yet; but she definitely wants to! This woman claims she wants to experience what it would be like to hook up with other women while in college, but she’s just a little confused about how to go about the whole thing.

The first time for everything is always scary, and the same goes for relationships. Because she is thinking about going into uncharted territory, it’s not surprising that she has some confusion and hesitation about everything. Maybe the solution to her problem is simply to stop overthinking everything so much and just let it happen naturally; rather than forcing a scenario.