What would you do if you found out the love of your life was only with you because of the amount of money you have in the bank? Well, if you are a rapper, then you’d probably rush to put it in your lyrics or something, but if you are an ordinary American working 8 hours a day on minimum wage, you might wanna consider kicking little miss gold digger to the curb. So who really is a gold digger? Well, this is someone who is more interested in a relationship with your money than with you.

If you have been going out on a couple of dates, trying to find the right girl to be in a relationship with, then the money factor is bound to be an issue. Whether it’s that you earn too much or too little, or what side of the fence you stand on when it comes to going Dutch versus being chivalrous, one thing is constant; nobody wants to be tied down to a gold digger. Figuring out these characters isn’t easy, and if you are not careful, you might end up missing out on the one girl who would have stood with you through thick and thin, in exchange for one who will stand by you through the money times and…well, the money times only. We have compiled a list of 20 questions she asks to know how much money you have in the bank. Hang tight!

20. Is that Designer?

While this might not necessarily mean that your girlfriend or date is looking to find out how much you are worth (she might just be making conversation after all), bringing it up often might mean the difference between being inquisitive, and being downright intrusive. Obviously you might own a couple of designer wear, a fancy coat you got from your rich friend, or a knock-off watch you got from a Chinese shop downtown (Don’t we all!). However, if your date often inquires if your shoes, clothes, watch, cologne or trainers are designer, then she’s probably trying to figure out how much you are worth. In case she gets disappointed whenever your items aren’t designer, then she’s definitely trying to gauge your finances.

19. Did you lease it or get it cash?

If you are a hardworking American, then you understand that this question often arises, but from your close family and friends. Finances are definitely a tricky discussion, and it really gets uncomfortable if you are discussing it on your first date. We all fancy different things in life, and for most guys, owning a flashy car or a decent house is on their bucket list, but when your date asks you if you leased your brand new Ferrari or bought it cash, then it’s a red flag; she’s trying to find out how much money you have in the bank.

18. Are you Junior Level management or Senior Level?

When a girl tries to find out what job level you are in currently at your firm, it does not necessarily mean that she is trying to figure out how much you earn, she is probably trying to take an interest in your interests. But in case she is super inquisitive about your pay grade or career level, then this might be a sign that she is trying to estimate your finances. It’s worse if she asks this question on your first date. In case she gets super inquisitive, bolt for the door! You do not want to get entangled in this!

17. How much did the gift cost?

If you are the super romantic type of guy, then you are probably going to get your date a gift on the first date. You don’t need to panic if you don’t usually do that, but in case you ever get around to it, and she asks you how much the gift costs, then she’s probably trying to figure out if you have a fat pocket. A decent girl will be grateful for any gift on the first date; it’s supposed to be a sweet, romantic gesture. But in case she is trying to figure out your worth, she will see this as her opening to ask “How much does it cost bae?”

16. How much money does your friend make?

Well, you went out to party with your friends, probably the flashy type who carries around a few groupies. You made a couple of acquaintances, and you decided to go out on a date with one of the girls you liked. If she decides to ask an odd question like how much your friends earn, then she’s definitely trying to gauge how much you are worth or worse, only hanging around you to get closer to your rich friend. When you hear this line, it’s best you run like the wind because this here is not a keeper!

15. Which is more expensive?

Well, this is an easy one. Almost the type of question that would definitely tell if someone is a gold digger. Ever been in a situation where you have to choose between two difficult options, and the factor that broke the tie was which option would be better for your pockets? I bet we all have at some point in our lives. Well, if your girl constantly makes her choice based on what is more expensive and doesn’t offer you a chance to chip in on the decision, then she’s probably taking you for a ride dude; she’s just after your money!

14. “Tell me about your family’s finance history – I mean family history!”

We all have a family history; some are more interesting than others, while some are more lucrative than others. You met at a gentleman’s club, probably your rich uncle or a friend’s dad invited you over, and you met this girl. If she is more interested in questions about your family finances than your history, then there is a big chance she is trying to figure out how much money you have in your bank. Watch out! In case you have a lucrative family history, then I am sorry, but there is no running from these kinds of girls.

13. Will you buy this for me?

If you have been in a relationship before, then you understand at some point you will have to get gifts for your girlfriend, it’s common relationship stuff and it really means a lot to girls. But in case your girl is constantly pestering you to get her a particular gift that needs some saving up for the common guy, then she is trying to figure out how liquid you are in terms of finances. While wealthy guys can get a brand new supercar by snapping their fingers, it’s a mountain climb for a common guy. If she pulls out this kind of card on you, then you know what to think!

12. Could I have it in all Colors/Variations?

You just got paid, maybe your yearly bonus, or a good commission on an account you have been working so hard on. Instead of taking a vacation or visiting your parents, you decide you want to impress this new girl you have been seeing. You are a smart guy, and you figure you could never go wrong with those cute little designer bags. You take her out to the mall, and after choosing the one she likes best, she orders a full pack in different colors or variations just to see how comfortable you are, or rather how you would react. Well, I don’t know about you, but methinks she might be fishing for your financial status.

11. Isn’t it a bit too cheap?

It’s hard to figure out how much a guy might be worth on the first few dates. For most couples, this is information that only leaks out when there is trouble or during the binding of marriage. But if a girl wants to know how much you are worth, or how much money you have in your bank, she only needs to convince you that the restaurant you have chosen for dinner is cheap. Well, chances are you really did choose a cheap restaurant, but if all she complains about is the price and not the service or the food, then this is a girl who only dwells on the money. Run as fast as you can!

10. Guess how much it cost?

All men try to be philanthropic when it comes to their women, and often times, you might have to save a lot just to get her something that you know will melt her heart. But in case your girl is constantly bragging to her friends how much the gifts you get her are worth and not their sentimental value, then she doesn’t really feel mushy towards you, she is just trying to figure out how much you are worth by calculating everything you get her. In case you get her that expensive designer dress, or that fabulous watch and all she does is brag to her friends, then you better be careful, she could be doing much worse than trying to figure out your finances.

9. Is it worth more than me?

If you have dated before then you have encountered this question a dozen times, but in this context, it could mean something totally different from what you might be thinking. A girl who gets angry at you for spending too much time in the garage with your car and pulls the “Worthy” may be crying out for your attention. A girl who pulls this card because you feel it’s too much of an expense to spend more than $3000 on a date might be trying to figure out how much you are worth; how much you can afford for the ‘girlfriend card.’ If she is constantly comparing herself to material things you can’t get her, then she is definitely trying to figure how much you are worth.

8. Can I get one too?

We have all asked this question one too many times, but you were probably 3 years old when you did so. When your girl persists that you get her something just because your neighbor or best friend got his wife the same thing, then your girlfriend might just be trying to figure out how much you are worth or how much you can stretch out financially without feeling the itch. While this might not always be an indicator that she is prying into your financial life, if she is instant on getting things just because someone else got it for their girlfriend, then she is probably gauging your finances and comparing them to that of your neighbor for example.

7. What car do you drive?

It is truly puzzling where certain people get the audacity to ask some questions. While it might seem harmless when she asks what kind of car you drive, it’s a rather ballsy question to ask on the first date, and especially if she is expecting the answer to be something expensive. Your car will provide a hint as to the kind of house you live in, and the neighborhood as well. Basically, what your account looks like. She has already started judging your lifestyle, and she already pictures you dropping her off at her friend’s place in your brand new Porsche. These types of people live for such trivialities. Being able to brag to her friends about what sort of German machine her new boo drives around town serves the purpose of massaging her ego. Please keep your distance from these kinds of people.

6. How much do you make a year?

Gold diggers are often too keen to know how much money you make from the get go. She is not afraid to bring up the topic on the first date, and this should be seen as a giant red flag. Get me right, there is nothing absolutely wrong with an individual being curious about your financial well-being, but when it becomes all she constantly wants to know about, then there is definitely a problem. Such people often desert you when times get hard and jump on to the next cash machine that comes along, so do yourself a favor and nip that relationship in the bud.

5. What do you and your friends do for fun?

It can really be obnoxious to date a person who is constantly trying to find out the details of what you and your friends do for fun. It is acceptable to be curious about your partner’s passions and likes, but this only applies to a certain extent. What purpose does asking what clubs and restaurants you often visit and how much you spend when you are there serve? Such questions only help her understand how best you can quench her thirst for the good life. In a sense, she is trying to find out what your overall wealth is and whether sticking with you is a worthwhile investment on her part.

4. Do you travel a lot?

Women have come up with new and more ingenious ways of determining whether you are capable of maintaining their lavish lifestyle. When she starts asking whether you travel often, don’t be fooled into believing that she is genuinely interested in what you do for fun. Certain questions are used to measure what type of life you can provide her, by seeing if you indulge in different expensive activities that she could be interested in during the length of your relationship. Women can sometimes be walking calculators. By finding out whether you often vacation, she is in a real sense calculating how much you can spend on her when y’all decide to take a trip.

3. Can my girlfriends come too?

Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries…this is very important when you start dating. A decent girl will understand that you want to spend time with her when you ask her out on a date, so the thought of asking whether her friends can tag along will rarely cross her mind. A person who is after your money will treat your date as an exhibition, constantly trying to convince her friends how deep-pocketed you are, convincing them to order things she can’t pronounce on the menu. She will test her limits, and go as far as you let her. Such women are parasites, and will definitely drag you down.

2. What do you do for a living?

The major difference between someone trying to figure out your worth and someone who is genuinely interested in you can be distinguished by how keen she is about your work and financial stability. When gold diggers ask you about what about what you do for living the subsequent questions will be a clear indicator of her intentions. She will ask you whether you see yourself looking for a better position that pays better. The nerve of some people, right? A girl who truly cares will ask you if you are happy at your job. The gold digger only appreciates you for your financial resources and your ability to provide her with a flashy lifestyle.

1. Can I use your credit card bae?

Women have definitely evolved with times; it’s no longer an apprehensive request for some women to ask for your credit card to do their shopping. If you want to determine if a woman is after your money, she will constantly ask for your credit card to run her never-ending errands. Any form of hesitation from your part will be met by unresponsive gestures when you try to approach or touch her. In real sense, she wants you to pull out your credit card any time you require any sort of gratification on her part. If she acts this way often, there’s a big chance she only wants to know how much money you have in the bank.